This story contains emotional manipulation, betrayal, and themes of romantic abandonment. If you’re healing from a similar experience, please take care while reading.
“Eve, I really want this story to go far. Let’s call it ‘I’m Sorry for Everything.’
Everything started in October 2023 when I met this guy on Snapchat. We were both in relationships with others, even though mine wasn’t serious, but he told me his was.
He said he liked me and I believed him because unless given a reason not to, I always try to see the goodness in people.
We talked every day and met up like we were a real couple. He told me “I love you” first, and made me feel guilty for not saying it back. After a while, I gave in and started saying it too.
Everything seemed fine until June 2024, when he called and asked me to block him on Snapchat because he was going to see his girlfriend. I agreed, but that moment made me realize I didn’t really mean anything to him.
I told him we should stop talking so he could focus on his relationship. He convinced me we could still work things out.
Foolishly, I agreed. We moved to chatting on WhatsApp until his girlfriend found out and made him block me. Whenever he was with her, he’d block me and lie that it was the network or that he didn’t know what happened.
Still, I stayed, hoping he’d choose me.
By July, I left my own relationship because it was no longer working. This let me focus all my attention and emotions on him.
But we only talked on calls because he kept me blocked everywhere else. I didn’t tell him I was single. I didn’t want him thinking I was desperate to be with him.
In October, he said he wanted to leave his girlfriend but couldn’t because their parents were involved. I suggested we end it between us, but he insisted there was hope.
Later that same day, he called back and said we had to stop talking because he wanted it that way. He blocked me again.
The next day, he called crying, saying he needed to see me and explain. Of course, I agreed. I liked him too much.
The next time we met, he said his girlfriend had visited and seen his call logs, and she made him call me, cut me off, and block me. He swore he loved me and would do anything to be with me.
Again, I believed him.
We kept talking until November when he claimed he had left his relationship but we should stop talking because I was still with my ex.
It was so obvious he was trying to twist things. I sent him proof that I had broken up and told him I was finally single for us. He didn’t say much about his girlfriend but claimed they were done too.
We continued like we were in a relationship. I even asked him what we were doing at a point, and he said, “We’re in a relationship.”
He once complained I wasn’t caring enough because I was holding back. I didn’t give him my heart fully because deep down, I was scared to get hurt.
And yet, through this all, he still had me blocked everywhere.
In January this year, I tried to be a good girlfriend or whatever I thought I was to him until out of nowhere, he messaged that we needed to talk.
He said we should stop all communication because things would never work out between us since our families wouldn’t accept it.
I asked what happened, but he refused to tell me. We stopped talking and I cried so much. How could someone who claimed to love me end things so abruptly and make me feel like a fool?
A week later, he called, said he was sorry, and told me what really happened. His parents wanted him to visit the girl’s parents and sort things out.
He couldn’t say no because he’d once refused a girl they chose for him. We started talking again but things weren’t the same. I was hurting, so I ghosted him.
He tried to reach me, but I ignored him.
A month later, he called, saying he missed me and wanted to see me. When we met, he said he needed me in his life and wanted us back together.
I fell for it again because I really liked him.
I started going to his house even though that wasn’t me at all. He was the first man to ever see private parts of my body.
He convinced me to let him touch and kiss me, though we never had sex. I was firm on that. I asked if the issue with his parents was still there because I didn’t want to get hurt again but he promised nothing stood in our way.
We were the only ones that mattered.
He even said he wanted to meet my aunt. Imagine how deep his lies went. Sometimes I told him I felt like we were just vibing and not really in a relationship, but he kept saying we were.
When I ghosted him once and started talking to someone new, he got angry, so I thought he really cared. Even when I stopped going to his house, he offered to come see me instead.
Just last week, he said he wanted to see my parents but couldn’t yet because of the drama with the other girl’s family. He asked me to wait a little, that it wouldn’t take long, and thanked me for understanding.
He even asked if I thought our marriage could happen next year, and told me how cute we’d be when we finally had our own place.
I could already see us married. I was all up in my head with the fantasies he built for me.
We were together last Friday. We argued a bit because he cancelled plans for Saturday and gave the same kind of excuse he always gave when he was with his girlfriend.
He was trying to fix things.
Then yesterday evening, around 7:30, he texted that he needed to tell me something he couldn’t keep inside anymore.
He said his dad kept pressing him to fix things with the other girl. They argued so badly that his dad almost hit him.
He said his father asked him if he knew he’d disgrace him, why did he let him talk to her parents in the first place?
He told me he had given an excuse to skip the visit, but now they were waiting for him to come back so they could continue.
I thought this whole issue had died down. He said he stayed because he thought we could work. But it kept getting worse and his dad wouldn’t let it go.
I told him to just agree and end it for real. All he said was, “I’m sorry for everything,” then he blocked me. Again.
Now I don’t even know what to feel, and I’d love to get the opinion of everyone reading this.”
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